The guides below are meant to drive personal reflection and application. They are not presented as dogma that participants in Union Lodge must adhere to. We encourage men to wrestle with ideas and take ownership of their own convictions. And when we gather to discuss these ideas, we hope men feel free to honestly process what they really think.

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Amor Fati

Is acceptance of suffering, injustice, and disappointment a good thing? How do cultural factors impact our relationship to that question and what can we learn from others?

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Jacques Lacan, Desire, and the Myth of Fulfillment

What if the things you want most don’t actually reside in your own heart of hearts? Jacques Lacan’s radical psychology challenges us to see what happens when we stop trying to fix the permanent 'lack' inside us.

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Relational Cutoff and Repair

How do we understand and deal with family estrangement, relational cutoff, and the general sense of separation we experience with others?

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Window of Tolerance

A helpful construct for visualizing our internal states, giving us a sense of how we can get back to self-regulation.

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Emotional Vocabulary

Some tools and strategies for gaining a more robust vocabulary to describe our emotions, and why that’s important.

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Emotional Intelligence

The critical role emotions play, why denying them dooms men to immaturity, and how we can gain greater awareness.

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Attachment Theory

A foundational look at the theory behind secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment patterns, taken from Sue Johnson’s Attachment Theory in Practice.

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